A few days ago a young lady posted what looked to be a suicide post on social media. The beast that is social media mildly exploded, showering her wall with messages of support and love. Loved ones and Strangers shared her post in the hopes of that somebody would recognize her, see her somewhere and lend a helping hand. An outpouring of support that showed, even in this disconnected world, people could still care.

Unfortunately, the beast has another side, and there were comments asking, among other things, why she had to let the world know, why she couldn’t just suck it up, and why she didn’t just do it. Others, in their attempt to cheer her up, told her that suicide was only for cowards, and not for strong people. At this time, I don’t know what has happened to her, I hope that she found the peace of mind to not…

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Fiji Sun irks the people. Again.

Because when dealing with sensitivity, Pacific MSM don’t do a very good job of it. Blogger and J-student reminding us once again to read the damn Media Decree.

Fijian Media Scene

Media Industry Development Decree – Media Code of Ethics and Practice – Schedule 1

Section 8: Victims in sexual cases

  1. a) Media organizations must not identify victims of sexual assaults or publish or broadcast material likely to contribute to their identification even when free by law to do so.
    b) Media organizations shall not identify children either as victims or witnesses in cases alleging sexual offences.
    c) Reports of cases alleging sexual offences against a child may identify an adult concerned, provided they are not related, but must not identify the child, and must not include facts which imply a close relationship between an accused adult and a child victim.

Section 15: Grief and bereavement
Media organizations shall respect personal grief, taking care to make any necessary approaches and inquiries, with sensitivity and discretion.

Section 20: Taste and decency
Media organizations shall recognize socially accepted general standards of decency and…

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Sex And Gender Are Actually The Same Thing (but bear with me…)


As you read the title, you may be overcome with indignation that this article is going to be a gender-essentialist rant. You’ll be relieved to know that it’s quite the opposite. My intent in writing this is to point out some serious misconceptions perpetuated in ‘trans 101’ and cisgender allyship resources, which end up doing much more harm than good for transgender people.

Anyone with an entry-level understanding of trans issues is probably familiar with the phrase “gender and sex are different things.”

While the idea of treating sex and gender as unrelated factors may result from an attempt to validate and support transgender identities, it actually perpetuates harmful cultural beliefs about the validity of sex assignment and the static nature of biological sex, which remove agency from trans and intersex people to define their own bodies and experiences. This way of thinking does nothing to combat (and in fact…

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Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like? (IDAHOT piece)

Great piece by USP student and activist Maryann Lockington. I was lucky enough to have seen her and a friend perform this at the IDAHOTFiji Unplugged event back in May.

Shir.Locks Poetry

Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like to be heterosexual

to be gay, to be transgender, to be queer, to be who we are?

Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like when one asks me

What is it like to be heterosexual?

We brush our teeth different and all my undergarments must be colour-coded.

Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like to be asked..

How do you do ‘it’?

We light a fire and offer garlands to the wind spirits for a successful coitus.

Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like to be pointed at for

wearing a dress?

I wear them every second Thursday of the month

Do you know what it’s like not to know what it’s like

when you’re told “That pants is so straight” “That tie…

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